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Unfortunately, creepy experiences in dating are all too common, even before the date begins. When using an app to meet local singles, all too often we meet the failed attempt of the creepiest pick-up line, and the even creepier people behind them. Most of us have had creepy dating experiences. Whether messages via social media or in dating itself, going out on a date wreaks havoc on the nerves!
There was one time when I had a very odd experience. I went to an art college and I’d made a male friend, whose name I will not disclose. Up until now, he was a completely normal, if quiet, fellow. He wanted me to help him on an English assignment, and I agreed. It was getting late, and we became hungry, so we went out to the local square to eat.
Soon he talked about wanting to become the first president with an art degree. Keep in mind, this was before Donald Trump so people still believed you needed degree qualifications. Thinking it was silly but not wanting to be rude, I asked what he wanted to accomplish as president. He wanted to uncover a conspiracy in Cuba. You see, he believed that there was a missing link hidden in the ancient goats of Cuba and archaeologists wanted to study it. As a result, Cuba closed to the United States.
At this point, concern struck me. Those deep set southern sayings were the only constraints that kept me from running. That, and food. Free food, might I add. After saying that he wanted to ban napkins so people wiped their hands on trees (he said this as he did so), I finally decided to go home. Limits exist to being polite.
Not to mention, so of my female friends have, on the first date, seen guys rub their tummies and insinuate future babies, have been stalked via social media and so other off-putting shenanigans all in the name of “dating”.
But what if there was an app that banned such creepy openings?
Move over Tinder, there exists an app like that. Men can’t contact women first. The woman makes the first move.
The app is called Bumble, created for women by a woman named Whitney Wolfe. It alleged Wolfe created the app after being sexually harassed on Tinder. She wanted an app to prevent such things from happening to any woman. Currently staffed by 13 people, 12 of which women, Bumble offers a unique socialization experience by allowing people to find local friends and datemates. The only exception to the women-first rule occurs when same-sex people match. Otherwise, the woman responds in twenty-four hours or the match disappears. Its userbase is majority women in most age categories.
To prevent accidental matches from occurring, users just shake their phones to delete the match. Users receive three backtracks a day, and refill when the app shares on social media such as Facebook or Twitter.
Proud of its feminist label, the app encourages women to boldly make the first move in a relationship, and shuts down unwanted conversation. With an over 800,000 person user base and rapidly growing, it’s clear that this app didn’t bumble through on its promises. Maybe give it a try if you’re looking.
Just stay away from that ancient cuban goat.